My therapist does CBT/DBT with me, so a lot of it is about behavior modification. Often that means helping me see the consequences of my own actions, which is what she did this time. The first thing she said to me when I saw her the day after the day that she didn’t call me was “so, why didn’t I call you?” She helps me through seeing consequences, and unfortunately, this time she had to be the one who enacted them because my behavior involved her and she had to not encourage that behavior. I don’t resent it, I think that in this case, those consequences are necessary and they are never enacted just to “punish” me, only to help me.