Hi Lovebirds, I'm from the other side of the pond so..but your experience of inefficiency and non-understanding is the world over...I guess the only positive in this is that eventually through your husband to be you will qualify...our own NHS system over here is also less the adequate...but I know this is across the board in most areas of care and those we think can help us the most often times are the last to understand...finding support groups and places such as here may be a good interim until you qualify???