L and my h both were pretty insistent that we rent a car and stay at a hotel when we or even just I go back there to visit. It has definitely made visits with my FOO more bearable when we have our own space to go back to each night and having a car during the day is so important to me. I can't stand not being mobile, it makes me feel trapped there. That thanksgiving a few years ago when we went to my brother's, after I put my foot down and said we're staying at a hotel my sister and her fiance very quickly followed suit. It is so much better having your own space to get away to when family becomes too much.