I haven't gone to be with family except twice for a holiday in about 25 years. To me, it is a terrible time to be with family even though my family was not terrible and holidays were not awful when I was growing up.
I went back a couple of times after my mom died, but then my dad started dating someone and my sibling lives in the same area as he does, so I left them to it. I find holidays annoying enough without family holiday hoopla being added to the mix.
All the noise noise noise...
My group of friends and I have several holiday rituals which are low key but nice.

In fact, I finally realized, about 20 years ago or so, that I should stay no more than 3 nights with my family no matter what time of year. Visits got so much better when I did that.