This was my point. Someone had said she should talk to him about it. If it's a problem for her, she should not try to talk to change him, she should just leave and end the relationship.

Also, my point was that he is not causing problems for them with his drinking, meaning, he's not causing fights, he's not being difficult, he's not being abusive... he is simply having one or two drinks. I also don't see that as alcoholism. Four drinks a night would be alcoholism. Not one or two.

The only problem lies with her not being able to tolerate it and it being triggering, so it's her problem, not his. And it's perfectly understandable given her history. It's very difficult to make things work when two people have opposing lifestyles.