BTW I wasn't advising you cut them out of your life, just that setting boundaries of any kind can be positive, based on my own experience. The boundaries don't have to be severe and they don't have to be permanent.

I'm glad it's better. I prefer my family visit me and stay with me, as opposed to the other way around. They are much better on my turf, but I think this is a life stage thing. In the sense that when you have a child or child(ren) the argument is that it's easier for the retired folks to travel to you. Kids' school and my work were the arguments, but I minimized travel to them, and when we did, we met in a nice vacation spot, where we had our own space .