The bottom line is: neither one is wrong. They live different lifestyles. He has every right to drink if he wants to, and she has every right to be with someone who is not like that. I was not being demeaning, that is simply how you interpreted it, and quite incorrectly. I am never demeaning towards a single person on here. Saying it's her problem is just a fact. It IS her problem, with HIM. She doesn't like it, it's extremely triggering for her, and I also stated it's perfectly understandable given her history, which is not at all demeaning towards her. It shows compassion. And I am not going to debate about whether a drink or two is a problem. I don't think it is. Just please don't take what I say out of context and misinterpret it. Thank you.