something that happened to me as a child.... without graphic details I was sent to temporarily live with a relative in another state. that cousin in my mind what this cousin did was rape. when I disclosed this online and in therapy and in support groups I got all kinds of people telling me thats rape thats this thats that...

I and my treatment provider at the time I disclosed this (I was an adult at this disclosure)

we made a police report, we got a lawyer, and we were all set for prosecution. the first court hearing the charge was thrown out as no rape happened by this relative.... heres why....

when i was 8 and this cousin who was 13 or 14 there was no laws on the books saying rape is unconsenting sex between minors. back then the definition of rape contained the wording "between adults" and the child sex laws were worded when an Adult forces their self on a child.

in my mind and by todays laws yes what happened to me in the state where I live now this would be called rape if I was right now that 8 year old child and my cousin was right now that same 13-14 yr old child. but back then sex whether it was consented or not was called two minors exploring, playing and so on not illegal...

another situation in my family is a sibling suddenly remembered what she would consider rape, these memories were not actual memories of her own. years later after she ruined someone elses life by accusing them of rape it was discovered a friend had told her about the friends rape and this siblings mind incorporated the situation into her own mind as if it had happened to her. (this kind of situation is now treatable with the new PTSD diagnostics.)

I also had a very close friend lose her life because people on the internet told her she had been abused, what happened to her was rape and that she had mental disorders that she did not have. Turned out her so called rape memories were because she had cancer in her brain which caused psychosis (hallucinations, delusions) and false memories.

my point is now that I know have the experience of these situations I never tell another person online or not that yes something is rape or not. its not up to me to say someones elses situation in their childhood was rape or not.

I instead tell them if the problems continue to contact their own treatment providers who can help them to discover for their self whether something from their childhood happened or not and why they are remembering what they are remembering.

original poster I know this kind of thing is hard but only you and your own treatment providers can find out whether you were molested as a child or not. my suggestion is contact yours or a treatment provider or your local police department who can also tell you whats what based on your situation and laws at the time you feel this happened to you.