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Originally Posted by RaineD
The best thing my therapist did for me was accept my love as something completely normal and natural. He did not question it. He did not analyzer it. He did not assume it was romantic or sexual. He did not assume it was just transference. He didn't question whether it was "real" or "because of therapy." He was not threatened by it. He was not afraid of it. He was not disgusted by it. And he did not shame me for it.
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YES! Same here... I included that in my goodbye letter because it was so important to me. I read so many scary things on here about when people said it to their T, that I felt so shameful and dirty and sick over it.... but he showed me "It's ok"
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Anyway, I think American society in general is very uncomfortable with the idea of love outside certain very narrowly drawn contexts. People also have a hard time divorcing love from sex. They have a hard time conceptualizing true platonic love outside familial relationships. That's why friends rarely tell each other "i love you." My best friend and I tell each other that, and I have a few other friends I say that to also. But I think close friends should love each other, but society in general has such a hard time with it.
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Yes, I agree with all that. It's sad really. For me "being in love" implies more romance or sexual but just "love" or "loving someone" can vary in many areas. It doesn't have to be this massive thing society makes it out to be.