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Old Dec 25, 2018, 09:01 AM
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Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
There are many people like this.... and I personally think love shouldn't be conditional. To me, it means, it never really was. This is the kind of love I grew up with, the kind of love that made me feel shame for loving anyone else, the kind of love that has broken me and made me who I am today (and not in a good way), the unconditional love from my dog(s) is literally the only thing that has kept me going all these years.... believing that no matter what mistakes I make, what flaws I have, how poor or ugly I may be, someone loves me.

That's the kind of love I try to give to others, and it's harder as humans no doubt, but it's also why I am very careful of who I say I really love. Do I love my family? No, not a chance. Do I love my friends? Meh, somewhat but not really... more like care for them.... Do I love my T? Yes. Do I love my dogs? Without any doubt, yes.

It really puzzled me when my T said how all love is conditional, and I said, "Even for your son?" And he said yes, how his son could do something awful and that could lead him to stop loving him. As a fellow parent, that confused me. I feel that I'd love my daughter no matter what. I do feel that my parents love me and always have, but their acceptance (by my mom) was/is conditional. If that makes any sense.
Thanks for this!
AllHeart, Anne2.0, DP_2017, elisewin