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Old Dec 25, 2018, 09:10 AM
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Originally Posted by toomanycats View Post
I believe a T can feel love for a client.
Me too. Ex-T basically said she loved me. At one point, she said something about loving a former longtime client (in context of a story). And a while later, I said I loved her, then added that I knew the therapeutic relationship was unique and she likely couldn't say it back. And she said it was unique, adding, "Not that I don't love you, too." I felt love many times from ex-MC, but I don't think he'd ever admit to that. T has said he ex-MC did things that made me feel loved, though of course he wouldn't know if he actually loved me.

I think if my T felt or ever feels love for me, he wouldn't say it, but that would be more for my sake, because of what happened with ex-MC (plus, I imagine a personal boundary of his). It's why he said he wasn't sure he should say "I care about you" but was willing to say "I care about your success" and "I care about your well-being." Even though I can tell he genuinely cares about me by his words and actions (including the fact that he said he was trying to be careful in what he said to me because of how it went with ex-MC).
Thanks for this!
Anne2.0