I believe love is unconditional - we love humans, humans are flawed, so I don't stop loving just because they've hurt me badly in someway.

But I also believe that circumstances change and love can change and die or wither away. If they continue to hurt me, intentionally, with no remorse then it will likely wither away.

Plus I've loved e.g. bf in the past where we ended more or less fine. I now have a soft spot for them, am fond of the memories, and if they called needing something I'd put myself out in memory but I don't still love them.

I don't believe the two are incompatible.

"At some of the more difficult times in my life I think love was all around me but I couldn't feel it or experience it and part of my healing has been to be more open to it."

Thanks Anne - this is my problem - I've locked myself away so tightly that I don't see and feel the love around me. I'm trying though.