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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
It really puzzled me when my T said how all love is conditional, and I said, "Even for your son?" And he said yes, how his son could do something awful and that could lead him to stop loving him. As a fellow parent, that confused me. I feel that I'd love my daughter no matter what. I do feel that my parents love me and always have, but their acceptance (by my mom) was/is conditional. If that makes any sense.
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Love can be conditional in that it can come with boundaries and limitations. I have several friends who had to impose strict limitations and boundaries on their relationship with one of their children because that child (adult) was abusive to a sibling or even to them, stole from them, etc. They love them deeply and having to put the boundary limiting contact with them was incredibly painful, but love doesn't mean there are no conditions at all.