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Originally Posted by Esmme
I'm in another awkward position...
Sorry these happen often online, I guess. :/
Anyway, I have a mutual friend, he recently started messaging me because we both are diagnosed with schizophrenia. He seemed nice enough, but eventually he started telling me how "beautiful" I am and wanted to voice chat.
He's seen pictures of me online, but I haven't seen pictures of him... So I asked and he sent a picture.
He claims to be three years younger than me... But in his picture, he literally looked to be about 35. For lack of better words, (and sorry if I seem harsh) he was not attractive to me. He also told me that he has two children, which, I was DEFINITELY not going to bother with.
We only talked for about three days and he asked me if we could have sex if he ever came to California and I was like, "Ew. WTF." I didn't actually *say* that to him, but I was extremely creeped out. I DID however, tell him that I only had sex with people I knew in person... He looks like my ****ing uncle... and he had the nerve to ask if I'd have sex with him!? AFTER ONLY TALKING TO ME FOR TWO DAYS?!
What's wrong with men online?! Seriously... I don't want to talk to him anymore, but I don't know how to... tell him that I'm not interested in him? I don't respond to his messages with more than three words. I'm thinking of blocking him, but we are both in the same server, so I don't know if I could do that stealthily.
I ****ing HATE when men start off a conversation about mental health, seemingly being supportive and understanding, only to start "flirting" (or some form of flirting?) with you...
It doesn't make any ******* sense!
Sorry, I'm a little upset because it feels like every man I meet (mostly online, but IRL too) only wants sex from me or to take advantage of me because I have schizophrenia. 
Is there something I am doing wrong that's attracting these creeps to me?
Is there any way I can change this? |
I hope I can help answer some of your questions.
Many of the men I met online over the years were unmitigated creeps who used the relative safety of hiding behind a screen to lie and be as offensive, filthy and obnoxious as they could. I shudder to think that they acted the way they did online in real life and
I never buy the idea of "oh, I'm only a $@#% online, never in real life." There are predators out there looking to take advantage of vulnerable people.
So here are my pointers.
If you have an age range you prefer--stick to it. If he looked 35 he could also have been 40. Unless you are 35 or 40--pass.
If you are not interested in fathers -- pass. It's your choice and you don't need to explain.
Don't talk about sex to people online. Predators will get completely bent out of shape at your refusal and will attempt to browbeat you into giving them their jollies. Pass on every one of these jerks.