"Sunrise Quote: "I was passing on that article to be helpful not antagonistic. It sounds like you already have your mind made up on this issue, so you don't want anyone to give their opinion or pass along information to you. Okie dokie."

Sunrise: Thanks for your post.
I do realize you were trying to be helpful.
I think were focusing on two different elements of my problem here.
Yes, I have made up my mind on the issue of "secret mommy crushes". I think that's pretty clear. I made up my mind up on that issue when i got married 24 years ago.

While, sure, I didnt agree with your post, I actually found the clip way more disappointing: that people condone having what's basically an "affair in your mind". Geez. I can, in no way, see harboring secret affair-like thoughts as being helpful in a marriage.
And I do value the opinions of "anyone", and you too...I just have to be granted the freedom to agree or disagree as well. Sorry if my response was a little abrupt but I was more reacting to the clip.

The fact of the matter is "yes" I've made up my mind on "secret mommy obsessions". There's no point in anyone telling me they are "okay" and "healthy". I'm more looking for advice on how to deal with the one my wife has and the best way to approach her with this that won't build walls.

kimmydawn: "Bang... bang... bang... bang" That's the sound of you nailing the head on this thing again and again. I can tell...you've been there. Thanks so much for your post.

What i think I might have to do here is compile some of the events that have me posting here. Maybe I can get peoples opinion on whether this is just a crush or if it really is an obsession. I'll think I'll get to work on that.