I hope I can help answer some of your questions.

Many of the men I met online over the years were unmitigated creeps who used the relative safety of hiding behind a screen to lie and be as offensive, filthy and obnoxious as they could. I shudder to think that they acted the way they did online in real life and I never buy the idea of "oh, I'm only a $@#% online, never in real life." There are predators out there looking to take advantage of vulnerable people.

So here are my pointers.

If you have an age range you prefer--stick to it. If he looked 35 he could also have been 40. Unless you are 35 or 40--pass.

If you are not interested in fathers -- pass. It's your choice and you don't need to explain.

Don't talk about sex to people online. Predators will get completely bent out of shape at your refusal and will attempt to browbeat you into giving them their jollies. Pass on every one of these jerks.