When I started working with Emdr T she occasionally made a joke but I took them personally and as a slam. She could tell I didnt get her humor and would apologize. She told me she often uses humor but if it is ever an issue or I dont find something funny to tell her to cut it out. Over the last few months I have come to appreciate her humor. At our last appointment we were discussing things like how much I hate doing laundry. I wash and dry but rarely fold and put away. We started joking about household chores and really started laughing. Also we discussed our children and some of their antics that drives us crazy. We started making jokes about my oldest son and laughing. She made a comment about not evening knowing the poor kid and here she was maki g jokes and laughing about him. I explained with my family we laugh at and tease each other lovingly but never in anger so what we were doing fit with my family's way of doing things. She said that was how things worked in her family as well.

T and I joked occasionally but only after working together for a few years.