I've heard stories of a widow having suggested to her to maybe wait a year to have a man in her life as opposed to receiving a waived fee for some types of classes for a child.
I remember thinking in amazement how preposterous it was to be sent off to church with my stepsister knowing full well the hypocrisy going on at home.
Yeah, life is filled to the brim with those talking the talk but not walking the walk.

I'd probably ask them how that church thing is working out for them if needing further contact.

I cannot say that I'd have bit my tongue if that nonsense happened to one of my own.