I think the three labels are to simplistic for the relationship I had with T. We were a team. She was a support person for me and an important part of my safety net. My mom died when I was just starting to have children. In many ways she guided me through life changes and struggles I am sure many viewed our relationship as unprofessional. We did have a dual relationship. ANYTHING that happened in the therapy room stayed there and was very professional. Living I a small town our paths crossed outside of therapy room. Over the years we frequently crossed over the professional line into almost a friend. During those times we never discussed anything relating to therapy. When we were in therapy we never discussed the outside relationship. We were very careful to never allow the 2 to cross. She knew my husband and family. They knew she was my therapist but that was never even mentioned by any of the parties.

With Emdr T we have a very professional relationship. I am sure it helps that I travel about 45 miles one way to see her and she loves about 45 miles away from there in the other direction.