Hiya, am defo humouring you as,
my view is that if you've acted prefect all your life then that possibly maladaptive behaviour is not one you want to replicate in therapy if you want to get anywhere.

I sau this from experience as I have been prefect- well tried bloody hard to be but of course one can never be prefect enough when one is pleasing the unpleasable. I then brought this dynamic to therapy until I realised what I was doing.

So I educated my self on the theory so I could understand and so impress, I brought dreams, she loved that until we both realised what I was doing, in between sessions I thought, tried to feel, meditated so I 'worked on' what we had discussed, she actually said I was a very good and quick client in this way, again before we realised, this was in the early days (now I'm a right pain in the ***), I hardly ever moaned about day to day crap (still try not to as it's a waste of time I feel), it was all high level 'work', I had always prepped what was bringing to session, with my interpretation, again to impress on how insightful I was, always tried to implement out of session, obvs paid on time, didn't miss sessions , wasn't late - the easy things.

So it worked I was prefect. We then had a rupture cause bits if me were like??? And she realised she'd been fooled - which is part of my problem. I can pass as high achieving v well. She owned up to it and now recognises and calls me out or questions if I'm being prefect waterloo.