I don't read his blog, but this article had been posted here before:

The Ideal Psychotherapy Client | Psychology Today

As your T is an analyst, being 'good' is a more of a sign someone needs a LOT of work. Trying to please others, be liked, or win approval, diminishes your whole sense of self; you are letting yourself be defined by and dependent on others rather than being a separate person.

actually that's not the right article but can't find it. maybe someone else has one.