Ya know Tomi, there are just some folks out there who wallow in their difficulties because being the victim is the only role they know. There is NO getting through to them, there is NO helping them as they are not in a place to accept and learn from.

You will only feel guilty if you allow yourself to feel guilty. We all have to learn where to place our boundaries...its not always an easy thing to learn and many times there is some damage done before we're able to put them into place.

You should be able to tell this woman exactly why you can't be her friend anymore...of course being as compassionate as possible. Sometimes being honest is excatly what a person needs to hear, even if you think it is hurtful. One can be honest while still being considerate of the others feelings

(((((((((((((((( Tomi )))))))))))))))))


sabby