Thank you @Emily Fox Seaton for responding. I believe that if the problem isn’t with my mind, then it must definitely be my hormones. I suppose they’re a little dormant and I will be looking into taking some tests in January to see if that’s correct or not. Maybe then, I can take steps to “find” my libido.

I don’t think I can know for sure if it’s my partner or not at the moment, until I know what’s happening with my mind/body. If it’s a hormone issue and I take Progesterone to essentially solve the issue and I still struggle to feel any sexual attraction, then I think I’d have to consider if it may be that my partner isn’t “doing it” for me. I hope that’s not the case, though.

You’ve given me a lot to think about, so thank you for your help!

Thank you @scorpiosis37 and @MickeyCheeky for your advice. I have thought that just going ahead and giving it one try will help me figure out if it’s something I want or don’t want, but the thought of even doing it once freaks me out so much. I’ve always had a bit of an avoidant personality, though I’ve worked hard to be less so recently. I just need to find it in me to possibly try it before I come to any conclusions.

I have spoken to my partner about how I feel, in fact he’s been aware of it before we even entered a relationship. He’s been very patient with me, though I think he’s at a point where he really wants me to try to make some progress. I hope I’m able to, but I can’t ever promise him or anyone else that it’ll happen.

Thanks for your thoughts!

Hi, @Open Eyes . I used to be on medication roughly 4-5 years ago and was only on it for a year. I don’t believe it’s had an affect on my lack of desire for sex, but I suppose I cannot rule it out either.

I am female, yes. I will definitely have some tests done to see if my hormone levels are abnormal or not. I’m a bit worried about it, but know that it could give me the answers I’ve been searching for and it needs to be done. Thank you for your advice!

Thanks @WishfulThinker66 for responding. I’ve not thought of it this way before. This could be a possibility. I’ve never been confident, and in the past I have often questioned my self-worth. But to be honest, ever since entering this relationship, I’ve felt much better about myself physically. My partner makes me feel like I matter and that I am beautiful. But there could be something lingering beneath the surface, and it’s definitely something I’ll think about!

Hello, @Middlemarcher . In a way, I’m glad someone is able to relate. It’s been hard to find people who can understand what I’m going through; I guess I sometimes expect to find people similar to myself, so that maybe they could help me understand all of this.

Thank you for the advice. I have never heard of Sexual Aversion Disorder, but I will be researching it. I think my councillor that I was seeing was trying to show me exposure therapy, but when I refused to engage in any sexual activity I guess that therapy became pointless. I’m not sure I can bring myself to try anything sexual, but logically I know that in doing so I could finally understand what’s happening.

I really appreciate the honesty and sympathy, thank you.