Thanks lizardlady for reading both posts. The drinking is actually something I've learned that I'm overly sensitive about. Friends and family have been around him when he's drinking and said his drinking is totally normal. I went from an ex-husband who never drank to someone who appreciates craft beer, so it's still a big change but something I'm now sensing is not a problem.

My concern now is really the parenting. He admitted that if he had had two of his daughters then he probably would have never gotten divorced. Given that his son was essentially at the root of ruining their marriage, I don't understand how he doesn't think it will have the same effect on his new relationship.