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Originally Posted by booster02011950
I’ve been having a sexual relationship with someone for the past 3 months. We were acquaintances before. We usually see each other 2-3 times per week for sex and I usually end up spending the night. The actual act is ok, but could be so much better for me. Forplay is totally one-sided. I give him oral, touch his body, I really get in to it. He doesn’t do the same for me. He doesn’t kiss me, he doesn’t touch my body, no forplay of any kind since the first time we had sex - no oral, which is fine, but he gave me a great massage and more. Since then, I’ve been the only one giving. During the actual act, still no touching, regardless of position, he just doesn’t. I know he wasn’t like this with other women, only me. I look younger than my actual age, other men ask me out, I’m not a bad looking woman. I think I look pretty decent. So what’s wrong?
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sometimes partners dont realize that the other needs foreplay. its pretty common for a guy not to think about a woman needs those times when its more about the massaging, relaxing, cuddling, talking, guys brains are a bit different in how they perceive things...
this is going to get a bit graphic but think about how you feel when your lower parts are "ready" the throbbing, ready to burst and emotions that come along with it.... well guys reach that point real quick they dont need foreplay to "get them there" just seeing their partners body can get them to rise to the occasion.
A womans brain on the other hand are wired to think things through, to take time to feel on an emotional level that guys dont see. I mean if i could see right away theres a spot I missed in touching my wife and Im a woman its understandable that guys would probably do so,and have this problem too, guys dont see the mental side of sex the same way a woman does. so women have to tell them.
any time you want your guy to massage and so on say .... like a guy told me his wife never leaves things to guesswork or mind reading. their sex life is amazing because they communicate with each other not just the first time but every time...
example his wife holds his hand tracing all his hands lines and outline, complimenting his hands and saying I could use a massage right from these ....... hands. they also have scented oils that they both picked out together so that not only does he give her a massage but she also gives him one.
suggestion maybe you and you and your guy can go pick out some things that the both of you will enjoy using for any kinds of foreplay activities you both enjoy
hey did you know that they make lots of adult board and card games for enjoying foreplay.
my wife and I totally enjoy adult gaming night together.