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mckell13 said: For example when I am in therapy the emotional or private state is the one who wants desperately to be heard, but it is continually block, contradicted, or overridden by other states. I can't figure out how to quiet the other states enough to let this state through.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Pay attention to the state that is "watching" all the states. I called mine "The Watcher" (I'm so original ). He didn't do anything else but if you're "aware" of what's happening it's easier to shift between states or watch one and give it the "evil eye" :-) so it knows it's not wanted at the moment, etc. Mine knew they were being watched so they acted like I would if I were being watched? But they were separate enough so I could kind of shush one and let another come forward. I also had a "traffic cop" state, I forget his name.

I typed up a document one weekend, took me most of the weekend, paying attention to who was who, what sex they were, what they were good at and what caused them problems/pain, etc. It was like 14 different states I think. I gave a copy to my T (who was pleasantly surprised :-) and noticed that things got lots easier in therapy as I was able to think to myself "okay who said that and why?" because I had what they were good at and did and who followed who, etc. so I started being mostly in a more present, observer state that made me feel more in control, etc. When "drama" started to happen I could laugh at it better and when I got frightened or anxious I could call on a more mature, supportive state, etc. There was a whole heirarchy.