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That sounds frustrating. Please don't do a number on yourself Booster by questioning your level of attractiveness. If this man is repeatedly having sex with you, it seems likely that he is attracted to you as you are

I think Amandalouise made some good points. Sex can be a very different experience for women and men. Men tend to perceive the goal as penetration quickly followed by orgasm whereas most women I know would rather have foreplay and intimacy before they orgasm...or actually need the foreplay in order to achieve orgasm. I mean intimacy in the sense of actually feeling connected and appreciated by your partner. Penetration can occur without any emotional intimacy.

Has this guy ever had a long-term relationship prior to you or is he used to casual encounters where true intimacy really wasn't on the table? As folks have said, communication seems like a great place to start...to parse out, without judgment, what's happening on his side.

What struck me as very significant was when you said he doesn't really touch you at all regardless of position. That sounds like possibly an avoidance of intimacy with you. You mentioned that he gave you a great massage...was it a sexual one? I could give a friend a great massage without it being sexual in any way.

Is this strictly only a sexual relationship? No dates etc? You mentioned you were acquaintances before...could that be part of the issue here? He's avoiding affection and other forms of touch with you in bed as an attempt to ensure that things don't develop into a romantic/loving relationship?

Perhaps you don't want that either. And no judgment here. But there is research indicating that when people have repeated sexual encounters, it can be increasingly difficult not to become more attached. Due to the release of oxytocin etc, our bodies are designed to bond during sex even if people don't want that. What I mean is, it's going to be much easier to have sex with someone once and then walk away without an attachment compared with repeated encounters.

Are you and the guy both clear on what you want/don't want out of these interactions? Have you discussed that? I think that would be valuable. I've had a few friends who thought that eventually a man would want more than sex if they gave it enough time. I'm not saying that's what you want here but I can tell you in those cases my friends wound up very disappointed and hurt. I hate to throw out stereotypes but in my experience men are much more able to compartmentalize sex (without attachment) than women are. Massive generalization of course.

Just some thoughts and ideas for you. Best wishes