~*~ cottoncandylocks ~*~

Honestly, I think it's best to tell the secrets. That doesn't mean it's easy, though. You have to make sure you are talking to someone who can listen in a respectful and supportive way. You also have to feel somewhat ready to tell them. I don't think you ever feel completely ready, because it's always scary to tell your secrets. But you can feel like maybe it's time. Does that make sense?

For me, I told my secrets to some friends that I wish I hadn't told. I wish I hadn't told them because they did not understand me at all and said I was crazy, even though they now knew the source of my problems. So that was a bad experience. However, when I (gradually and one issue at a time) got brave enough to tell my secrets to my therapist, it was the most rewarding and healing experience in all my life.

If you feel you are talking with (or posting to) people who will hear and understand (or at least try to understand) your pain, and the burden of the secret is wearing down on you, then maybe it is time to break the silence.

Best wishes to you

Angela