No, I don't think you have a case against your former T that is likely to be successful. I considered filing a case against my former T but decided against it. But the motivation to do that -- the most important thing for me has been to accept and deal with my revenge motivation, which had been basically dissociated until activated by her termination because "she did not have the emotional resources" to continue.
Revenge is often/generally viewed socially as unacceptable -- and yet we have it. Most people have it. It probably served a "good" purpose for our primate ancestors, before there was language. And it still serves a purpose, I think, as a kind of biological basis for the concept of justice.
My revenge motive, and some aggression generally, had gotten cut off. It just wasn't "OK" in my family and I wasn't OK to them when I was like that, when I was feeling those things. So -- off they went, into their own compartments. At least that's how it feels.
They are now a part of me -- a lot more, if not completely. And I can consider the impulses and actions "they" "suggest" and know those feelings are valid. I accept and believe that those feelings are based on what happened in reality and serve a useful function. Those feelings clue me in about some stuff I used to be unaware of, and I am better off "having" them, even though it's often not a good idea based on other goals that I have to act on them in the way that they immediately suggest.
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