I know how it is. I once fell down the stairs and broke my left arm and right wrist...and drove myself to the hospital! It was difficult because my truck has a stick shift. But I survived.

Okay, the last time I spoke with this person I brought up CBT and how we can use it to lighten our moods. This person said he has dysthymia...but I said that all mood states aren't necessarily permanent. He then said well some people are just melancholic. He's kind of invested in being a curmudgeon.


This person knows he is too much of a debbie downer! And I know all to well how this can happen when one is alone too much. I fight it every single day.


...I stopped investing so much in the friendship and I think that was good. I was surprised when he called. He wants to have lunch in the new year. He just emailed me today. I think he will be on his good behavior. He'll pick the restaurant this time and since he has impeccable taste I know it will be good.


Lowered expectations here are probably helpful.


I think there IS a big difference between being a toxic person and just being a depressive.