I'd like to try to clarify, if I can. There is no way to "make" her take that responsibility, to see what she did that was wrong, that hurt you, that misled you, etc. But the wish to see that happen -- a wish for justice -- unfortunately, in my view, does include an element of something like vengeance sometimes. Justifiable so, in my view. Even if you go by the religious teachings that we are not to take vengeance into our own hands. Still, we may feel it sometimes.

And it may conflict with other feelings -- loving somebody even if they hurt us, not wanting to hurt them because we love them, or because we believe in not hurting other people.

And that conflict can be very difficult. I know mine have been.

As others have said, what do you want to accomplish? Do you have a realistic chance of doing that? Will you be OK after filing a complaint even if the complaint is dismissed?