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Originally Posted by SorryOozit
I don't know what has given you the idea that I advocate non-judgment. I encourage people - women in particular - to be far more discerning and judgmental about the behaviour of others. We need to name the behaviour of others as abusive and pass judgment over it in order that we start to see significant change.
I am pleased you contribute and voice your views, I am not in the least bit interested in silencing you. I enjoy our disagreements.
Don't patronise me by providing definitions of words. By all means disagree, but don't treat me like an idiot.
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Don't treat me like one either. I don't HAVE to agree or see things your way, I'm not a "women advocate"... most people who have F'd me up in my past are women, I don't see them as special in any way. People are people, some suck and some do not....both men and women.
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Originally Posted by satsuma
I'm sorry that you feel judged, DP. I think you are going through a hard time, and I wish for things to get better for you.
FWIW I have often been given the advice not to make major decisions when you are very emotional. So in this situation, I wonder if that could mean sitting with your feelings and making a plan to 'check in with yourself' at this time next year, and see whether you feel you want to report your former T at that point?
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Report him for what exactly? He did nothing wrong.... the relationship we had helped me and it made me happy.... I'm just upset that he left so suddenly and is now hiding behind ethics but its nothing bad and he's not a T anymore... so why ruin his life? Let him live and be happy. I assure you , no amount of time will change it. If no amount of time has made me want to report my mom for her ****, this surely wont....
Not EVERYTHING needs to be reported, that's kind of my point.