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Originally Posted by KnitChick
If you have trouble connecting with people and understanding them, well, I think it's a good thing to 1. admit and 2. be aware of. Maybe it's a part of your diagnosis. Or it could just be who you are. Regardless, if you are attacking people who are just trying to help, that's a problem. It's good you recognize it. Maybe you would do well with learning interpersonal skills. Everyone needs them, and a lot of people could stand at least a brush up.
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How though? I have tried in the past to improve my social skills and I still struggle. I find socializing draining and I'm not a people person. I find approaching people and starting a conversation with them extremely uncomfortable and intimidating. I also have a particular fear of approaching women. I am afraid of being rejected by them or seen as "creepy". I'm 27 years old, yet I've only had one actual relationship with a woman and that lasted a whole 4 months and I met her online so it wasn't anything serious enough for us to move together.
I've tried to improve but I just learn these types of things slowly. I have some trouble understanding social norms and I'm not good with small talk. I also have speech issues where sometimes I talk too fast or too slowly and I sometimes get nervous around people and have trouble thinking about what to say. I try and try but things just don't click.
Ya I'm good at tech. I built computers since age 7. I am a self taught computer hacker. I almost made it to being a professional gamer at one point even. Get me around people though and I outright struggle.