Does your wife not know at all? Both my husband and I have been hit with it. It came on all the way right after our marriage in my mid-twenties. He only recently just admitted he believes there are psych diagnoses between needing 100% institutionalization and normal living (as in no pdoc, no meds). He was of the suck it up mentality. I finally got him to admit bipolar exists and that I have it. He knew I had a mental health history of depression (misdiagnosis there) and anorexia before we met but figured they were done & gone with. I was weight-restored and seemed normal to him even if I did take psych meds. I guess he figured it wouldn't be forever.

The BP diagnosis he did not want to admit to, it being lifelong and especially when my pdoc had decided I was BP I, she had us both there and was telling H everything he needed to know, but he didn't trust pdocs and it went in one ear, out the other. But he's forgotten. He thinks overspending money is being irresponsible; it is, but it's also something one in hypo or mania is likely to do. I think he likes me best hypomanic and doesn't believe I'm in a delicate balance between 2 worlds. He's forgotten all but the most obvious of the manic symptoms, like not sleeping and delusions of grandeur. I try to get him to read more about it, but no go. We have been married 14 years and it's only been after having mandatory mental health training (he's a teacher, well, will start as a college professor in Jan., but before that a high school teacher). They have amped up the teacher mental health training in light of all the school shootings and there was some exercise they did that made it hit home to him what racing thoughts are like. When he forgets, I remind him of what he said after doing that exercise in training.

Does your wife not know your diagnosis at all? How long have you been married?