Well I am an alcoholic in recovery and my husband is not. I have a solid sober foundation. I quit drinking on my own (which was so dumb and dangerous) but he was so happy I did he didnt even think about drinking around me. I told him that I just couldnt have alcohol in my house. Call me weak willed or a baby but I just couldnt, and he was ok with it because even though it was my problem, he wanted the healthy me and it wasnt that important to him. I am not one of those alcoholics that claim everyone else is one or that drinking is bad, but if drinking bothers you enough that you brought it up here then alcohol is a general problem for you regardless of who is doing the drinking an how much. And I think it was divine that said this but it is the OP's issue. The simple solution would be to ask "hey could we not have alcohol in the house, it bothers me" or "can you not drink around me?". Assuming he loves her his choice will be that its no problem or he may want someone who can handle it. But truly she has to deal with it as best as she can for herself. And that may mean moving on. It shoudnt be more important to him than her but who's to say the reverse isnt true. I know I am responsible for my own sobriety and that involves my loved ones that I live with. If I had to stop drinking and my husband wouldnt and it bothered me, we wouldnt have stayed married.
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