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Originally Posted by KnitChick
DBT has helped me a lot. There's even an interpersonal skills component to it. In terms of my own anger, pausing, like, taking a moment to just chill, in between the situation and my response. Or even getting up and walking away from the situation, then coming back, helps me. I am not perfect at it. I can still be a beotch. But I've gotten a lot better with my family, and saying (Or rather, not saying) impulsive things online. Meditation has also helped me. Learning what I value also helped. I personally value kindness and have an interest in it. You may, or you may not. If you don't, that's ok. Maybe you value consequences of your actions though. Or being independent. Or being good at something.
There are books out there as well on the subject of interpersonal skills. I'm sure you know this. As well as information online. Maybe check there.
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Thanks.
Maybe I should see a therapist for DBT though. I know there are books on it I just don't have the self discipline to follow through on my own without somebody to motivate me. I have a hard enough time balancing school and a job I don't think I can endure anything else on my own.
I tried improving social skills by practicing and researching guides on the internet. I even purchased a $300 online course last year that teaches you to socialize. I can do well enough now in low pressure social situations (like starting a conversation with a cashier) but get me into something high pressure like socializing with an important person, a girl that I like, or heaven forbid a job interview and I flat out struggle.