I’m finding myself increasingly annoyed at my best friend and I don’t want to be because it’s not fair to her. I’m annoyed because she is almost never free and “booking a time slot” to hang out with her is often near impossible. She can only spend time with me on the rare occasion she is available which is usually a very specific window of time. We are both quite driven and focused on our future careers. The difference between us seems to be that I need my best friend and she doesn’t. She spends most of her time doing work and spending time with her family. Her family still rules her life (having to set aside an entire weekend for your uncle's birthday??) but I admit it’s not fair for me to judge her or say she should live her life differently. I just find it somewhat condescending and self-important that she has zero time for friendships. She’s not a celebrity. She’s not working a high powered job. She is busy, as am I. But she also PILES things on her plate to purposely be busy and as we know, that’s not the secret to success. I’m just starting to find it all a bit flippant and uncaring. If my feelings of annoyance are selfish and wrong tell me and please help me find a way to work through them in a kind, nurturing way.