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Originally Posted by piggy momma
I saw my T today. He made a passing reference to my email where I asked for a hug at the end of a hard session. It’s not gonna happen  . He said I’ve been violated by too many men for too long, and he wants to be the male in my life that supports and me respects me. I get it, but I’m not gonna give up hope. |
My first therapist (a man) refused to hug me after a difficult session and I found it really difficult to take. I also have a history of being abused by men.
My current therapist (also a man) does hug me and it's something we've talked about a lot. To me, I felt so much shame and self-loathing as a result of my abuse history that my first therapist's refusal felt shaming and reinforced my negative thoughts about myself.
While I understand your therapist's logic, I think the feelings that can emerge from saying no need to be thought about and discussed too. Hugs.