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TeresaK · Mar 08, 2008, 11:56 PM

Cyran0,

So I've always wondered about this but have never had the nerve to ask anyone so here it goes... (it took me nearly 40 years to get the nerve, about 30 years too long)

Does everyone occasionally fantasize about being the opposite gender? (I don't think there's a single person alive that hasn't thought that at least once before dismissing it, or really considering it.)

*Does the fact that I sometimes wish I'd been born female make me a closet transsexual? (only if it's on your mind every waking hour of the day and night) 

Do other people get excited by imagining what sex is like for the opposite gender? (perhaps some people do) 

Do other people wish they could experience sex as the opposite gender? (I did. just don't ever get caught letting your imagination run away while having sex, with the opposite sex of course) 

Do other people get a bit jealous of the opposite gender's strengths/assets? (since transitioning from male to female just a few years ago, I've noticed to some degree that I have sacrificed privileges reserved for males. do I have regrets? not really, I get to cry if I want to.) 

I've had these thoughts for as long as I can remember and I've wondered what it says about me. (IMHO, it just says that you may simply be a more empathetic, feeling individual, nothing to feel the least bit guilty about.) 

Sometimes I think it's normal and everyone thinks that. (yep) 

Other times I think it's a result of being molested by males as a child. (I don't necessarily think this has anything to do with it, I was molested by my older brother, but not raped, and I don't think it has anything to do with my transsexuality) 

On occasion I've wondered if I'm experiencing some version of the "woman in a man's body" thing but without any serious intention of doing anything about it. (see * above) 

TeresaK