My wife and I remarried after her affair. I am now going through flashbacks about the affair (13 years ago) -- finding a card about their relationship, a condom when I had a vasectomy, hotel receipt, denial about the affair (just friends). While separated and not yet divorced she had an emergency situation that needed hopital attention. I went to the hospital and after some pushing a nurse for her condition, she said ectopic pregnancy. Hurtful because I've had a vasectomy and the father must be her affair partner. She told the medical staff not to talk abou the situation and she denied the pregnacy. My mind is renumerating about the situlations. We're in couples therapy now but have not brought up these items that are causing me anxiety. Should all of those situlations be brought up in couples therapy or should I just deal with my own therapist and learn to move on?