"My T used to interpret my requests to modify the therapy as transference wishes, but now we have a T-client relationship instead of just the transference relationship. He made a few adjustments and it works well."

Interesting. I wonder if this is what my t is doing. I've got negative transference to her and I can see how resistance from this to her may be elided into her believing that it is all resistance when I have genuine concerns over her methods. To be fair I've only recently come to this. As I said further up I was groping to it at the last session. So I've not been able to talk to her about it. But this adds an interesting element. Thanks.

Eta: sorry for hijacking your thread.