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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I dont believe saying your're fine or saying something to keep the peace is the same as lying. The reason being is that in those two scenarios both things are subjective. You could have a terrible amount of crap going on in your life and tell the random stranger you are fine because a- You are fine, even though things are tough. b- youre fine and the stranger's fine are different so to the stranger your circumstances would still be fine. And saying something to a toxic person is.. just saying something. There is no false claim of information or a truth to cover up. When things are subjective lying isn't really applicable because lies are the opposite of a truth. They are answers to specific inquiries to specific things. You cant really define "fine" in a way that would make it a truthful answer or a false one. Same goes with "saying something" to a toxic person.
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I guess I can understand where you're coming from.
I never was good with small talk. I find small talk to be fake and pointless. When somebody asks me how I'm doing I always say "fine" and "alright" even when I'm hurting so bad I want to cry or lash out. I thought when you tell somebody you're fine when you aren't that is pretty much lying in itself.
Also it's really nobody's business how I feel. I lie and hide my feelings and real self behind a mask most of the time. There is such a stigma against mental illness that I'm afraid to show this side of me to the world so I lie to protect myself from getting hurt. Maybe 3 people that are still in my life know I have mental health issues the rest think I'm just a socially awkward computer geek.