I don't know if you want suggestions or not, so feel free to disregard if you do. I would suggest this: Talk, talk, talk about it. Talk about your fears, talk about your feelings, talk about your goosebumps, talk about how you are afraid of being rejected, how you are afraid of becoming too dependent and too attached, talk about it all and talk about it now before it becomes as big and all-consuming as it has before. Talk about how you are terrified she will reject you if you tell her how attached you are/will become, talk about how you are terrified that you won't feel attached to her (because you are) and talk about how desperately you crave that deep love and connection. Talk about everything.
Why? Because this is both the source and the cure of your pain and the only way to the other side is through it. Not alongside. Not next to. Not despite or in spite of. But right there. That is your IT.
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