What do you two do when you get together? Besides roll in a hay what else is there between you two? Common interests? Shared values? Do you actually go on dates? Like in public? Accompany each other to gatherings? If not then what’s this about? Sex? Secret sex? There are ton of single men who’d be happy to have casual sex no strings attached. It’s harder to find someone to commit but jusf for sex it’s easy. Why must he be married?