I think I am understanding this better now. It is not the frame things like "how many times can I call?" that you (Kiya? McKell?) want spelled out, but the actual how therapy works and how the relationship works sort of question? I thought it was just frame things only and couldn't understand why a T wouldn't just answer those (because the ambiguity does cause many clients grief). I agree with ECHOES on the second type of question, that you just let it unfold. For me, therapy is an adventure and I think it is one of the coolest things I have ever done (and painful too). I don't want that spelled out. Because, in a way, how can it be spelled out? Each client is unique. I actually do like being surprised at where we end up and what we explore.

McKell, that interchange you had with your T where she gave you answers to all your questions sounds really good, but maybe you didn't ask all the questions you really wanted to? And perhaps it is better not to ask them all--let things unfold?