i still can't quite get a handle on it... ( i totally get the sense of humor and validating the feelings that come up)...

more like there is this underlying, prevailing sense that men think about sex all the time. and also that anything a woman does might make the guy think about or want sex. and for a woman to be concerned that her actions might *Make the guy think she wants sex*...
the answer being "what's wrong with wanting..." is a different issue than "being afraid he'd think you wanted".... i'm trying to make my thoughts clearer...

I just finished my final in Ethics.... forgive my frame of mind.
there is something about western culture that says it is ok for men to think about sex all the time - AND that women bring it upon themselves... that women have to be concerned for their actions, and men are expected to act.... see the difference?
I'll bow out of this thread now - clearly i am on a different track than the one that was meant.... despite the clear caring that is being conveyed (or trying to), i find it disturbing at a cultural level.
Kiya