Hi danceengine,

Some thoughts for you: what are you hoping to hear from us about this affair? And what are you hoping to accomplish by getting involved with him again? The community here at large has tried to help you to steer clear of this man and work on improving your life instead. Now I’m not pointing fingers because I’ve had very poor judgement with my own love life, but you are making very unhealthy decisions for yourself. This is a big step backwards in my opinion. It’s going to have to end again unless you want to ruin a marriage. There is no good outcome from this. You are only providing a temporary band aid for yourself from your own pain. This is not the solution to your problems or to your pain. You’ll need to eventually find a way to resolve your problems without the help of an affair with a married man. You could have gotten involved with a single man who wants sex, but instead you chose this man again. Perhaps you felt so rejected that you had to go back. I do not agree with the above advice about playing games with him just so you can end things on your own terms. I think you are heavily misguided and in a lot of pain. You are not thinking about the consequences, except for your own needs right now. Again this is not the correct solution. You’re going to have to solve your problems one day, but an affair with a married man will only cause more problems for you. Is that what you really want??