Hello Alt: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I don't know as there is a lot I can offer you with regard to the situation you describe. (Hopefully other members will have some thoughts they can share.) From what you wrote, it just sounds as though your friend has a lot going on. Plus there was the unfortunate occurrence related to your surgery & the medications you were taking along with those you were not... bad timing all around.

From my perspective, I think all you may be able to do is to keep in touch & see how things develop over the ensuing days & weeks. It may be that, when the two of you first got together, you represented a "breath of fresh air" so to speak, or perhaps a respite from your friend's day-to-day responsibilities. And the problem that developed between the two of you, plus the other things your friend has going on in his life, have wiped the bloom from the rose, as the saying goes. Whether or not there was sufficient substance to your relationship for it to recover & carry on may be something only time will tell.

It may be too soon to throw in the towel. But it's probably also too soon to know whether or not this is a relationship that can survive. At some point you may simply have to force the issue & confront your friend with regard to his intentions (or lack thereof.) But you probably don't want to do that unless & until you're prepared for the possibility he may simply close the door.

Under any circumstances... I hope you find PC to be of benefit.