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Originally Posted by mote.of.soul
Hi,
I think half the problem is trying too hard to be liked, DazedandConfused254. Not saying that's what you're doing but I don't really think women are all about warm fuzzies and unicorns all the time. Be nice, yes, but try not to censor yourself around them as well. Just say whatever comes into your mind - the real you.
I'll be honest - I began to have more luck with women [my late twenties/thirties] when I just stopped caring. If you're a nice person anyway, then you don't have to try in that area.
I don't know, it's a mystery. One thing is - do not put yourself down please, DazedandConfised254. You're a good person, I can tell. Women are just people my friend, but they're females as well. Be a little bit sexual but not in a #MeToo kind of way.
I'm just throwing that out there.
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Also like to give a shout out to mote.of.soul, who is always of great help and good spirit as well.
You've hit the nail on the head with many of my issues. I fear that sometimes people will think I am a monster if I reveal a more authentic and honest self, and that is a possible explanation to my generally cautious nature. I guess though like with people I mentioned earlier who I used to consider my friends in college, their egos just seemed like they couldn't be contained. In the real world though, I guess being myself, including the occasional awkward moment, is more than just a saying thrown around all the time. We all have our own unique sets of skills and weaknesses. As Smokey Robinson sings in the oldie but goodie "Ooo Ooo Baby Baby", we're only human, including women, so mistakes are just part of our greater human nature. With your calling to accept myself so I can love others has lifted my spirits, and these words, along with everyone else's here, are just what my anxious and weary mind need. Thank you for making my heart happier with your kind words!