I appreciate the responses so far.

My husband is a definite cat lover. There is nothing he won't do to help a cat. Me, I love dogs and cats equally, but he prefers cats, so that's what we have.

He says he does hear that stereotype now and then. Not only being a cat lover, but also that he likes to cook and couldn't care less about watching sports. All of these things are somehow supposed to make him less manly. But he's the last person to give a hoot what other people think of him.

As for the anger, it's been my experience, growing up mostly in the Southern US during the 1960's and 1970's, that men are *allowed* to get angry while women are expected to be "ladylike," whatever that is. Another stereotyped image comes to my mind. Picture a child or teenager who has done wrong, and is being confronted by his/her parents. In this (fictional yet common) scenario, typically the father is going to be speaking sternly, and the mother is going to be speaking in a more gentle, pleading tone. If the roles were reversed, if the mother were speaking harshly while the father is quiet, then she's going to be seen as a shrew, and he's being more reasonable.